Derby Middle School

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Welcome to Derby's Counselor's Corner...

As counselors we are here to assist your child and you!   We can help with all aspects of your child's day - academically, socially and emotionally.  Middle school years can be challenging on many levels for the student and/or parent(s).  Our role as counselors here at Derby, is to problem solve with all parties involved, and to help develop a positive solution for success.
Meet Your Counselors!
Mrs. Thomas



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Mrs. Thomas

Hello Derby Family,
My name is Melissa Thomas and I am the current 6th Grade Team B (Westerlund/Kelley) and 8th grade counselor at Derby Middle School.  I am excited to be working with you and your student to make their Middle School experience a success. 
Please contact me with any questions or concerns you have or simply to introduce yourself at 248-203-5014 or by email
Looking forward to a terrific year with your child!
Melissa Thomas
Mrs. Martin



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Mrs. Martin

Dear Derby Families!
My name is Mary Martin and I am the current 6th Grade Team A (Hall/Meyer) and 7th grade counselor.  I am available to both you and your child with a goal of making their years here at Derby both fun and successful.  

Please feel free to contact me at 248-203-5010 or at my email address with any questions or concerns.

Thanks in advance for your help with making the middle school years a success!

Mary Martin

Hot Topic: Raising Children of Character

This past week we were able to spend time with family and friends, which gave us time to reflect on our blessings and the importance of helping others.  As Derby counselors, every day we see acts of kindness and amazing character in our students.  Parenting expert and educational psychologist, Dr. Michele Borba stresses the importance of adults being intentional In Planting Seeds of Empathy. Dr. Borba states “ seeds of empathy, caring, and compassion are present from early in life, but that to become caring, ethical people, children need adults to help them at every stage of childhood to nurture these seeds into full development. We should work to cultivate children’s concern for others because it’s fundamentally the right thing to do, and also because when children can empathize with and take responsibility for others, they’re likely to be happier and more successful. They’ll have better relationships their entire lives, and strong relationships are a key ingredient of happiness.“ 


Some key components for nurturing empathy in your child are found in Dr. Borba’s blog at Below is a synopsis of her ideas on how we can plant these seeds of empathy.

1.      Work to develop caring, loving relationships with your kids

·         Schedule regular quality time together

·         Have meaningful conversations. Try these conversations starters to gain more insight into their day: What was the best part of your day? The hardest part?, What did you accomplish today that you feel good about?

2.      Be a strong moral mentor and role model

·         Regularly engage in community service

·         Model honesty and humility

·         Utilize others for support

·         Take care of yourself- take time to relieve your stress

3.      Make caring for others a priority and set high ethical expectations

·         Prioritize caring when you talk with other key adults in your child’s lives

·         Encourage your child to “work it out” Before letting your child quit a team or friendship ask them what they can do to work through it

4.      Provide opportunities for children to practice caring and gratitude

·         Expect your child to help

·         Point out daily caring and uncaring acts

·         Express gratitude

5.      Expand your child’s circle of concern

·         Encourage children to consider the perspectives and feelings of others; especially those outside their circle of friends

·         Use examples in the media to help teach your child the hardships of others

6.        Promote children’s ability to be ethical thinkers and positive change-makers in their communities

·         Take action – Be an up-stander not a bystander

·         Get involved with community or school outreach

·         Think out loud with your child by discussing ethical dilemmas

7.      Help children develop self-control and manage feelings effectively

·         Encourage your child to share their feelings

·         Practice resolving conflicts

·         Set clear limits and boundaries

This time of year is filled with hustle and bustle and provides us lots of family time. It also gives us many opportunities in which we can model Dr. Michles Borba’s key components for nurturing empathy with our children.

Your Counselors,     Mary Martin and Melissa Thomas




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